How to Say No

Throughout the day, you discover that there is always someone who needs your help, can be in the form of time, attention, praise, or even your approval. On the other hand, you also often need similar support from others. It happens everywhere, in the workplace, at home, or even when you meet a stranger on the street. That's what happens in life, take and give.

Always say "Yes" everytime someone asking for your help will drain up your energy, even your happiness. It's not easy to say "No", especially for someone who has become accustomed to say "Yes". But saying "No" is sometimes important for your health and wellbeing.

Thus, realize that you can not always say "Yes" to every request from others. Train yourself to say "No" instead if it is important to your health and wellbeing. These are some advantages of saying "No" :

• You will have more energy. Not only you will save your energy, the realization of the fact that you are the one who is in charge for your life will give you extra energy.
  
  
• You will have plenty of time for yourself.
  
  
• You will be more confident.
  
  
• Your life will be more fun.
  

So, how to say "No" wisely? Here are the tips:

1. Let them know. Ask for their understanding that you are busy with your other responsibilities.
   
   
2. Have a work schedule. You can't check whether things are according to your initial plan or not if you do not have a schedule. And, if you do not have a plan, someone else will be more than happy to take advantage of you.
   
   
3. Train yourself to say "No". Maybe not to all help requests, 95 percent of all is good enough. Tell them that you also have other responsibilities that you need accomplish.
   
   
4. Make some considerations. Take about five seconds to consider whether 20 percent of all help requests from people around you could be tailored to your bustle life. If not, say "No".
   

Say 'Yes' to the important things
Does the rejection of pleas for help other people is always bad? That might sound like that. But, wait a minute. You need to realize, before stating 'Yes', identify whether it will benefit you, whether in your work performance or in your superiors's sights. If it is important for your career and yourself, then this is the right time to say "Yes".