Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Great Way to Fight the Fire of Jealousy

Jealousy is a complicated emotion, especially in a relationship. While jealousy is a natural emotion, you can not let it control you or else it will eventually damage your relationship with your loved one.

However, jealousy can also have positive effects in a relationship, and it is a normal emotions of every person. But if you a are a jealous person, here are some basic strategies to control your jealousy, as quoted from pages Ineedmotivation.
  • Positive Thinking
    Many times women spend more time to think about their partner in negative ways, making them more prone to jealousy. Negative feelings and bad self image could easily transform into jealousy. If you don't control it, in the end it will control you. Try to think in more positive ways, you will find yourself less jealous than before.

  • Do Not Compare Yourself With Others
    One of the main reasons why people feel jealous is because they compare themselves with others. We are all individuals with our own uniqueness. Understand this concept, and you will realize that comparing yourself with others is useless.

    We all have things that other people do not have and vice versa. The combination of what we have and what they lack is unique. It would be much better to focus on bringing out best of ourselves.

  • Remind Yourself About Bad Consequences of Jealousy
    Jealousy will only leave scars and disappointments. Why should you let yourself to feel something that will only give a negative effects to yourself, whether it be a feeling of disappointment or a hurt to your partner's feelings.

    It is true, it is not easy to control jealousy. But this is exactly what you need to remind yourselves of all bad things that would happen if you let jealousy control you. Think about the negative consequences of jealousy as as fast as it grows, before it becomes too big to handle.

  • Live A Healthy Life
    Studies show that people can control their jealousy better after changing their eating habits into a healthy one. It's quite interesting. Look closer to the way you live. Perhaps your jealousy rooted from your lack proper diet, proper exercise or having no hobby that can enhance positive mood.

    Stress and unhealthy lifestyle will impact psychological condition seriously, which in turn will trigger the negative feelings that lead to jealousy. To prevent it, do the activities that can make you happy, such as relaxing or traveling, which could dampen the effect of jealousy.

  • Turn Your Jealousy Into Motivation
    Instead of letting jealousy hurt yourself, try thinking about what you can do to change it. Do not linger in feelings of jealousy, it will make you think irrationally more and more. Drive your energy into a more positive direction such as to motivate yourself to become a better person.
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Friday, November 12, 2010

Popular Reason for Absenteeism

A survey conducted by Sambucol, a brand of multivitamins, found out that many bosses do not believe it if their employees asked for sick leave.

After surveying 3,000 employers, the researchers found that about 75 percent of them do not believe it when their employees requested permission to leave because of sickness. The bosses tend to think that the sickness is just an excuse to relax at home.

More than 60 percent of employers said that lack of presence over certain percentage gives negative effects on the promotion or increase of the salaries of the employees. Flu and headaches are not considered a strong reason to be absent from work. And one-third of the bosses also do not consider pain and diarrhea as sufficient reason to stay at home. Some other bosses even are not showing sympathy to the condition of a broken arm.

Fortunately, you can still apply to take a day off to recover your health. But, not more than one day. Most of the bosses expect their employees to go back to work after three days permit of influenza.

If you suffer from migraine attacks, you can easily get a permit for absence. But "headache" would not serve as a good excuse to not working during the day. Sambucol spokesman said, as quoted from Genius Beauty, most British businessmen are not expecting their employees to ask leave for sickness, unless in a really bad condition.
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Friday, November 5, 2010

Win Your Ex's Heart Back

Brake up in relationship is often caused by emotional of both couple. Frequently, when all the emotional have calmed down, one of the couple feel sorry to break up without thinking carefully.

If this happens to you, you need certain strategies to win back your former lover's heart. Because, usually when trying to get back together with your ex, he/she would still try to keep his/her distance from you. The chances are, he/she is still in doubt whether you'll repeat some mistakes that have hurt him/her.

As quoted from web EzineArticles, if you really want to get your relationship back, there is one thing that you should remember: don't repeat the same "sin" as before.
  • Self-Introspect
    The first step you can do is to evaluate yourself. Find out more on what things that had made you and he/she argued. Was it something that came from your or from his/her attitude? Can you change yourself for him/her?

    In addition, you also must consider whether the relationship is worthy to keep if he/she is not willing to change his/her behavior that has frustrated you. Make sure to prepare yourself for all possibilities, so that you won't have to face a break up again.

  • Appreciate your partner more
    Show him/her that you can appreciate him/her in all things. Mutual respect is an important factor in a relationship. Show him/her that you can appreciate him/her better than you used to. But, do not forget to tell him/her that you want to build the relationship based on mutual respect.

  • Restore Your's Ex Confidence in You
    To get your ex back into your arms, you need to build rapport and do things that can restore his/her confidence in you. For example, if you an emotional type, perhaps now is the time show him/her that you can contain your emotion and are willing to discuss any problem reasonably.
By showing your efforts and your attitude's change, your ex might re-evaluate his/her feelings and might desire to re-establish the relationship with the "new" you.
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