Benefits of Mutual Trust In Marriage

Marriage requires mutual trust between the couple. If we want a strong relationship then we should have strong foundations. And mutual trust is one of the strong foundation we need to have.

Here are some benefits of having mutual trust in a marriage, as quoted from Helium.

• Strengthening relationships
  As stated earlier, trust is one of the foundation needed for having a strong relationship. No relationship would be able to go well without the presence of trust between the couple.
  
  
• Strengthening love between the couple
  If you and your spouse can trust each other, both of you will feel more comfortable in the relationship. That comfort will provide suitable media for love to grow even stronger, bigger and deeper.
  
  
• Keeping intimacy
  Stronger love will make it easier to keep intimacy, and deeper intimacy will result in deeper and more fulfilling marriage life.
  

Have you now understood the importance of trust in your marriage?

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Great Way to Fight the Fire of Jealousy

Jealousy is a complicated emotion, especially in a relationship. While jealousy is a natural emotion, you can not let it control you or else it will eventually damage your relationship with your loved one.

However, jealousy can also have positive effects in a relationship, and it is a normal emotions of every person. But if you a are a jealous person, here are some basic strategies to control your jealousy, as quoted from pages Ineedmotivation.

• Positive Thinking
  Many times women spend more time to think about their partner in negative ways, making them more prone to jealousy. Negative feelings and bad self image could easily transform into jealousy. If you don't control it, in the end it will control you. Try to think in more positive ways, you will find yourself less jealous than before.
  
  
• Do Not Compare Yourself With Others
  One of the main reasons why people feel jealous is because they compare themselves with others. We are all individuals with our own uniqueness. Understand this concept, and you will realize that comparing yourself with others is useless.
  
  We all have things that other people do not have and vice versa. The combination of what we have and what they lack is unique. It would be much better to focus on bringing out best of ourselves.
  
  
• Remind Yourself About Bad Consequences of Jealousy
  Jealousy will only leave scars and disappointments. Why should you let yourself to feel something that will only give a negative effects to yourself, whether it be a feeling of disappointment or a hurt to your partner's feelings.
  
  It is true, it is not easy to control jealousy. But this is exactly what you need to remind yourselves of all bad things that would happen if you let jealousy control you. Think about the negative consequences of jealousy as as fast as it grows, before it becomes too big to handle.
  
  
• Live A Healthy Life
  Studies show that people can control their jealousy better after changing their eating habits into a healthy one. It's quite interesting. Look closer to the way you live. Perhaps your jealousy rooted from your lack proper diet, proper exercise or having no hobby that can enhance positive mood.
  
  Stress and unhealthy lifestyle will impact psychological condition seriously, which in turn will trigger the negative feelings that lead to jealousy. To prevent it, do the activities that can make you happy, such as relaxing or traveling, which could dampen the effect of jealousy.
  
  
• Turn Your Jealousy Into Motivation
  Instead of letting jealousy hurt yourself, try thinking about what you can do to change it. Do not linger in feelings of jealousy, it will make you think irrationally more and more. Drive your energy into a more positive direction such as to motivate yourself to become a better person.
  

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Reasons Why Love is More Important Than career

Do you often feel confused to allocate your time between work and your partner? Is giving priority to love over career always better than otherwise? Read on and learn how to make the right decision of this dilemma.

Yourtango website states that, putting love as your priority is a wiser decision for the future. Fulfillments of your emotional needs would give you more happiness and satisfaction that in turn would help you be more successful in your career.

Why? What are the reasons you should be more concerned about your love life than your career?

• A Date will not impede your career
  Spending 1-2 hours quality time with your partner would not harm your career. You would hardly mess your job if you sacrifice one or two hours to spend your time with your lover. Especially if he/she is an understanding partner, he/she would not force you to go out when you have to finish a pile of works.
  
  If he/she really cares about you, he/whe will understand your situation. For example, he/she will support you if you are working on important projects in the office.
  
  
• Having Someone Would Make You A Happier Person
  Imagine this picture: you're currently working on a long-term project that is very consuming in terms of time and energy. You are very busy that makes you sunk into depression. How if you have a partner who then came and bring you food? Of course, that would ease the stress that you experience due to your deadline works.
  
  
• Marriage Is Not Going to Divert Your Attention
  In a marriage of creative and busy persons, the married couples need to support each other. They should not obstruct each other's activities. In addition, the presence of children should not become obstacles to your career, but should make your life more colorful.
  
  
• Rich Or Poor Is Not The Main Issue
  Love is not about money. It's about togetherness. Be thankful that at least you're together and are able to give support to each other.

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Which one is more dangerous: Emotional Affair or Sex Affair?

Infidelity is often considered as a betrayal only when it involves physical while in fact, emotional affair can damage a marriage as bad as physical/sexual affair.

Absence of physical intimacy in marriage, complicated by constant emotional and psychological involvement with another one may simultaneously "turn-off" the satisfaction and closeness with the partner.

"When you develop emotional intimacy with someone else, you and your partner will no longer feel emotionally connected to each other. The focus and energy that used to be for your partner have been moved to another person. Emotional affair has every means to turn-off a relationship quickly", said Lauren Mackler, a therapist and the author of "Soulmate: Master the Art of Aloneness and Transform Your Life", as quoted from NY Daily News.

Emotional infidelity can begin casual communication such as those in friendships, then goes on to a more intense relationship that ultimately culminating in an emotional relationships. At this stage, it has become a form of infidelity.

"One who is involved in emotional affair often does not realize it. So, as the time goes by, the relationship will become stronger and unconsciously they will then adjust themselves to one another," said Dr. James Wadley, a sexual therapist and marriage expert.

Then, what are the danger signs of a friendship that headed toward emotional affair? It is when someone can not think of others but his/her special friend, continual message sending either via SMS, email or chat, and especially when one starts to lie to his/her partner.

"When someone says to her partner that he would have to go home late because of work, while in fact he spent the time with the other one, it is the most obvious signal of a emotional affair," says Mackler.

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Secret of Harmonious Marriage

Each couple craves for harmony and perpetuity of their marriage. But there are too many things that can trigger quarrels in a marriage. However, there are some secrets that will help you to reach a harmonious relationship. What are they?

Genius Beauty, an Australian researcher, has found the secrets to help maintain happiness in family and to strengthen marital relationship. He also revealed that presence of gaps between husband and wife is often becomes the main trigger of arguments.

In his report he concludes that, to reach an intimate and harmonious relationship in marriage, a husband should not show that he gets more pleasures than his wife.

The similar conclusion also resulted by scientists from Deakin University in Victoria state, Australia. In their study, a husband should be more open to his wife. They found out that a husband's openness will make a woman feel more appreciated and will give her assurance that her partner is truly happy in his marriage with her.

Couples who conceal nothing to each other will be better prepared mentally in an event of divorce. But in most cases, couples who are honest to each other are less likely to divorce.

"The study found that the more gaps present between couples in their satisfaction level, the greater the threats to the marriage," the researchers said.

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Is it true that 80% of Cheating Husbands Still Love Their Wives?

For a married men or womend, an affair can be started from the habit of teasing or flirting. This teasing and flirting may end there, just like that. But it may also continued, pushed deeper into an affair.

The more your partner flirts, the higher the risk of him being involved in an affair. A psychologist confirmed this. Ragnar Beer, a psychologist from Goettingen, Germany, conducted a survey on 2,600 men and women who had ever cheated or be cheated by their partners.

One result from this survey is very surprising. Most of or about 80% of cheating men/women are still in love with their partner. The biggest reasons for their cheating are the opened opportunities, inability to resist the temptations, or a need for new challanges. Excessive stress at work can also be counted as a factor.

In addition to the above facts, consider these four other startling facts surrounding romantic affairs:

• Not Just One Night Stand Dating
  Research conducted by Beer shows the most affairs are not just a one night stand dating. Only 12% women and 15% men done this one night stand. Almost 60% of the respondents admitted that their affairs lasted for more than 1 month, some even up to 6 months.
  
  
• Affairs May Be Repetitive
  One affair may then be followed by another, and then another, another... and so forth. According to the conducted survey, 49% of the cheating husbands and 55% of the cheating wives cheated only once. And 17% of men were having an affair while dating a woman, 12% male respondents cheated twice and and 22% cheated more than three times. About women, 20% of them betrayed their husbands twice, 10% three times and 15% more than three times.
  
  
• After Having Been Caught Cheating
  An affair will always be a big problem when exposed. According to Deer's survey, most people admit their infidelity to their partner, ie 44% men and 46% women. 30% men and 24% women's affairs were exposed because of being caught by their partners. Only 3% men and 6% women's affairs being exposed because of the other's reports.
  
  
• Betrayals Will Never Be Forgotten
  Discourse that unfaithfulness can be forgiven and forgetten turned out to be wrong. 43% men and 61% women had never been able to forgive and forget their partner's affairs. Then, 11% men and 20% women who have an unfaithful partner, find themselves hating their partners instead of loving them.
  

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4 REASONS NOT TO MARRY A RICH MAN

Vacation in an exotic island, fancy dinner or a sumptuous gift of diamond ring are the things that many women dreamed of.

Seeking a relationship with a rich man is not wrong. However, the research indicated that your chances for happiness may be bigger if you choose to foster a relationship with an ordinary or not too rich man.

"Men who do not have very much money actually are more willing to make their women happy. It was because of money and high statuses often trigger infidelity and other negative behaviors in men," says Adam Galinsky, Ph.D., Professor of Management and Organization Sudies of the Northwestern University , United States, as quoted from Womenshealthmag.com.

If you're looking for a partner, do not only use wealth to consider if a man good enough for you or not. Why? Because, in fact, there are 4 "advantages" you can have if you choose to build a relationship with a not-too-rich man.

• More Faithful
  Research shows that men with average income have smaller tendency to cheat on their partners. On the contrary, wealthy men tend to be more hypocritical in the case of infidelity.
  
  "Men of high statuses have greater tendency to cheat. But they are also more judgmental to others who are having affairs for their superiorty feeling of having more money and power," said Galinsky.
  
  
• More Polite
  According to a report in the journal of Psychological Science, when meeting with new people, men from low to medium income are more polite than those of the riches. The facts observed when the researchers witnessed the differences on how the rich and the ordinary men treat the new strangers.
  
  "Men with average income try to socialize more because for them social relationships are skills to survive. Rich men might assume that they do not need new acquaintances," said Dacher Keltner, Ph.D., the author of the book "Born to Be Good".
  
  
• Give More Support to Their Partner
  Research published in the Journal of Applied Psychology reveals that rich men look more sexy than ordinary men. But in terms of support and help to their partners, men who are not too rich are the champion. They do not hesitate to help their wives to clean the house, to bath the children, to cook and to do other household tasks. This oftentimes be very sexy in the eyes of the wives. Mutual support indeed will make couples happier.
  
  
• More Astonishing During Lovemaking
  Men who are not too rich will try to satisfy their partner's sexual desires in every way, said Bethany Marshall, PhD, the author of the book 'Deal Breakers'.
  
  "Man will do everything to make their women stay. If he can not provide riches, he will try to satisfy his partner's sexual desires in every way," said Bethany.
  

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SECRETS OF HAPPY COUPLE

A problem that often faced by married couples are the waning of their romantic life because of daily chores. We need to express our love to our spouse, to keep our flame of  love burning.

To express our love, we don't have to wait for special occasion. We can do it in our day-to-day life, and make it a habit.

If right now you feel that your romantic life with your spouse has become less beautiful than it was, start doing this basic habit to rekindle the fire of love again. We'll never be too late for doing anything good, won't we?

1. Never forget to say "I Love You" to your partner everyday. Let him/her know how much you care about him/her.
   
   
2. Hug him/her and give him/her a kiss good-bye before you leave. Do the same when you get home: greet him/her and give your warm hug.
   
   
3. Treat him/her as if he/she were your date. Treat her/him even better than when you were dating: opening the door for her, hold out a chair for her, help her in her domestic work, or hold her hands when you're walking together.
   
   
4. Do not let small things annoy you. It's only a matter of choice whether feeling annoyed with your partner's bad habit or finding a workaround. If she always leaves the cap off the toothpaste, then use a separate tube. Or if he always leaves his clothes laying around, just try to ignore it or pick them up and put them on place. Buying additional hangers won't be a big deal, don't you think? Buy some new ones and keep them handy. As best as you can, create a pleasant atmosphere for both of you in your home.
   
   
5. Instead of thinking about the disappointing things he had done, why not just focus on the positive things he/she had done for you? Things that may draw both of you closer together?
   
   
6. When you get angry, try to hold your words, even if you feel you want to shed your anger on your partner. Take a break, breath deeper. Or give yourself time to regroup by being away from him/her for a moment. By doing that, you may be able to see problem more clearly. Letting your anger shed uncontrollably would just make you say and do things that you will regret later.
   
   
7. Never use your partner's secrets or weaknesses against him/her! Never talk to your friends, mother, his family or anyone about it, even when it seems insignificant or cute to you. Your partner entrust you with his/her secrets, so never ever fail his/her trust.
   
   
8. Be willing to, at least, accompany your partner in doing his/her favorite things, such as watching a soccer ball game or fishing. Make him/her enjoy their activities. Do that and later you'll find how he does the same to you!
   
   
9. Show respect to your partner. Do not ever talk bad things about your partner to others. When you are talking about your partner to somebody else, let the one who talks with you feel the respect and love you have for him/her. Let your respect and love shine through your words.
   
   
10. Always find convenient time to be together every day. Find out what kind of activities that you both enjoy either eating your meal together, or just laying in bed. Skipping your favorite TV program for a a walk around the block with him/her would never hurt either. You can choose and mix the activities anyway you wish. If you are away from home, don't forget to call home just to hear his/her voice. The point is to spend time together every day, either by just talking, holding hands when sitting together... or whatever things to build connection between the two of you.
    

Without loving acts, loving words are meaningless. Make a romantic life a part of your daily life!

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