Scatterbrain. What causes it?

Do you often forget to bring important office files, leave your cell phone at home or lost your ATM card again and again? It may sound normal, but if it occurs repeatedly and may cause harm to other people, you should look into the things around you.

As quoted from Health.com, here are five things that can cause it.

• Excessive Usage of Technology
  The smart phones that are always on, laptops, and iPods are the things that would always seize your attention. Especially if you use all them simultaneously. Because, the more you try to handle them all, the more difficult for you to focus. Train yourself to do thing one thing at a time and do not get addicted to technology. If necessary, turn of all your gadgets for one day.
  
  
• Lack of Sleep
  Lack of quality sleep will make you touchy, hard to concentrate and will give you hard times to finish your work. It is a normal reaction of a body deprived from proper sleep. Get a sufficient rest and you'll be back to normal.
  
  
• Job Dissatisfaction
  Boring or unorganized Work environment can also make it difficult to concentrate. Lack of clarity in job description which makes you have to do a lot of work simultaneously can also be the culprit.
  
  
• Stress
  Stress can take all of your concentration, making it harder for you to focus your attention and causing you slower to think. Do not let stress controls you. Try to cope your stress by doing various activities such as taking vacation or doing some meditations.
  
  
• Lack of Exercise
  Research shows that regular exercise makes your mind sharper and increases your ability to remember things. Lack of exercise will make the blood flows to many body parts, including to the brain, become less smooth and thus can affect your ability to concentrate. Try to do a little exercise regularly. Take some time to jog or run in the morning before going to work.

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Reasons Why Love is More Important Than career

Do you often feel confused to allocate your time between work and your partner? Is giving priority to love over career always better than otherwise? Read on and learn how to make the right decision of this dilemma.

Yourtango website states that, putting love as your priority is a wiser decision for the future. Fulfillments of your emotional needs would give you more happiness and satisfaction that in turn would help you be more successful in your career.

Why? What are the reasons you should be more concerned about your love life than your career?

• A Date will not impede your career
  Spending 1-2 hours quality time with your partner would not harm your career. You would hardly mess your job if you sacrifice one or two hours to spend your time with your lover. Especially if he/she is an understanding partner, he/she would not force you to go out when you have to finish a pile of works.
  
  If he/she really cares about you, he/whe will understand your situation. For example, he/she will support you if you are working on important projects in the office.
  
  
• Having Someone Would Make You A Happier Person
  Imagine this picture: you're currently working on a long-term project that is very consuming in terms of time and energy. You are very busy that makes you sunk into depression. How if you have a partner who then came and bring you food? Of course, that would ease the stress that you experience due to your deadline works.
  
  
• Marriage Is Not Going to Divert Your Attention
  In a marriage of creative and busy persons, the married couples need to support each other. They should not obstruct each other's activities. In addition, the presence of children should not become obstacles to your career, but should make your life more colorful.
  
  
• Rich Or Poor Is Not The Main Issue
  Love is not about money. It's about togetherness. Be thankful that at least you're together and are able to give support to each other.

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Which one is more dangerous: Emotional Affair or Sex Affair?

Infidelity is often considered as a betrayal only when it involves physical while in fact, emotional affair can damage a marriage as bad as physical/sexual affair.

Absence of physical intimacy in marriage, complicated by constant emotional and psychological involvement with another one may simultaneously "turn-off" the satisfaction and closeness with the partner.

"When you develop emotional intimacy with someone else, you and your partner will no longer feel emotionally connected to each other. The focus and energy that used to be for your partner have been moved to another person. Emotional affair has every means to turn-off a relationship quickly", said Lauren Mackler, a therapist and the author of "Soulmate: Master the Art of Aloneness and Transform Your Life", as quoted from NY Daily News.

Emotional infidelity can begin casual communication such as those in friendships, then goes on to a more intense relationship that ultimately culminating in an emotional relationships. At this stage, it has become a form of infidelity.

"One who is involved in emotional affair often does not realize it. So, as the time goes by, the relationship will become stronger and unconsciously they will then adjust themselves to one another," said Dr. James Wadley, a sexual therapist and marriage expert.

Then, what are the danger signs of a friendship that headed toward emotional affair? It is when someone can not think of others but his/her special friend, continual message sending either via SMS, email or chat, and especially when one starts to lie to his/her partner.

"When someone says to her partner that he would have to go home late because of work, while in fact he spent the time with the other one, it is the most obvious signal of a emotional affair," says Mackler.

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Secret of Harmonious Marriage

Each couple craves for harmony and perpetuity of their marriage. But there are too many things that can trigger quarrels in a marriage. However, there are some secrets that will help you to reach a harmonious relationship. What are they?

Genius Beauty, an Australian researcher, has found the secrets to help maintain happiness in family and to strengthen marital relationship. He also revealed that presence of gaps between husband and wife is often becomes the main trigger of arguments.

In his report he concludes that, to reach an intimate and harmonious relationship in marriage, a husband should not show that he gets more pleasures than his wife.

The similar conclusion also resulted by scientists from Deakin University in Victoria state, Australia. In their study, a husband should be more open to his wife. They found out that a husband's openness will make a woman feel more appreciated and will give her assurance that her partner is truly happy in his marriage with her.

Couples who conceal nothing to each other will be better prepared mentally in an event of divorce. But in most cases, couples who are honest to each other are less likely to divorce.

"The study found that the more gaps present between couples in their satisfaction level, the greater the threats to the marriage," the researchers said.

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Workaholic's Bad Habits

Working too hard has become a habit for many people. Even when they are at home, they still feel busy, can not relieve their thoughts out of their office work. Without realizing it, you might have worked harder and longer, thinking that hard work would bring you success.

However, do you know that working too hard for your career ambition could endanger your health? In fact, you could waste all of your money you have made out of your hard work at once if you get sick for being too tired. To avoid all of this, you need to get rid of "workaholic" habit from your life.

George Griffing, MD, a professor of internist from Saint Louis University, wrote in Times of India, that, "Many people feel they ought to work hard to gain financial success. But, high job pressure and long work hours will deteriorate you health in long term."

The workaholics often have bad habits that will give negative effects to their health. Here are the workaholic's bad habits that you should remove from your daily activities for a better health:

• Forget to relax
  If you always put yourself in pressure and do not allow yourself to relax, you will be caught in stress syndrome. You have to take time for relaxing. This way, you will be more alert and motivated. Too much stress will decrease your productivity.
  
  
• Eating on the Way
  Many times people forget to take a healthy lunch because of highload work such as meeting, conference calls and deadlines. It is necessary to eat in a calmy without overwhelmed with anxiety and haste. In the calmy situation, it makes more easily for nutritional content of consumed food to be absored by the body and make us more productive, especially for producing brilliant ideas for the quality works.
  
  
• Abandoning Sleep For Work
  Everyone, including super busy professionals still need rest as much as 7 to 9 hours of sleep every day. Loosing your sleep time can cause many problems such as irritability, difficulty in concentrating and also memory problems. And also problems associated with obesity.
  
  
• No Time for Exercising
  At least 30 minutes exercise every day is very important for your current and long-term health.
  
  
• Still Working in Sick Condition
  Many people still come to the office to work in spite of their sickness. There are three important reasons why you need to stay at home when you are sick. First, nobody wants you to spread germs and disease in the office. Second, you will definitely become less productive and third, you need the rest to heal in order to be able to work better.
  
  
• Drinking Alcohol (too much)
  Excessive drinking can lead to alcoholism, liver problems, and some forms of cancer.
  
  
• Skipping Annual Medical Examination
  You must do medical examination to detect disease early, to prevent others from developing disease, and to get the best treatment for your body if it is in vulnerable condition. You need to know what happened in your body.
  

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How to Say No

Throughout the day, you discover that there is always someone who needs your help, can be in the form of time, attention, praise, or even your approval. On the other hand, you also often need similar support from others. It happens everywhere, in the workplace, at home, or even when you meet a stranger on the street. That's what happens in life, take and give.

Always say "Yes" everytime someone asking for your help will drain up your energy, even your happiness. It's not easy to say "No", especially for someone who has become accustomed to say "Yes". But saying "No" is sometimes important for your health and wellbeing.

Thus, realize that you can not always say "Yes" to every request from others. Train yourself to say "No" instead if it is important to your health and wellbeing. These are some advantages of saying "No" :

• You will have more energy. Not only you will save your energy, the realization of the fact that you are the one who is in charge for your life will give you extra energy.
  
  
• You will have plenty of time for yourself.
  
  
• You will be more confident.
  
  
• Your life will be more fun.
  

So, how to say "No" wisely? Here are the tips:

1. Let them know. Ask for their understanding that you are busy with your other responsibilities.
   
   
2. Have a work schedule. You can't check whether things are according to your initial plan or not if you do not have a schedule. And, if you do not have a plan, someone else will be more than happy to take advantage of you.
   
   
3. Train yourself to say "No". Maybe not to all help requests, 95 percent of all is good enough. Tell them that you also have other responsibilities that you need accomplish.
   
   
4. Make some considerations. Take about five seconds to consider whether 20 percent of all help requests from people around you could be tailored to your bustle life. If not, say "No".
   

Say 'Yes' to the important things
Does the rejection of pleas for help other people is always bad? That might sound like that. But, wait a minute. You need to realize, before stating 'Yes', identify whether it will benefit you, whether in your work performance or in your superiors's sights. If it is important for your career and yourself, then this is the right time to say "Yes".

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What Can Make Women Happier?

Because of the higher daily costs of living, many people make assumption that material possesions could bring happiness. But, do you know, there are simple things around us that can make you happier?

As quoted from web Shine, here are the simple things around us that show how happier you are than you imagined:

• Have A Sister
  Usually women who at least have one sister have a happy life. A study presented at the annual conference of the British Psychological Society declared that, another sister can become a stimulus for communication within the family.
  
  Not only that, having a sister could mean having a better social support, thereby creating a greater optimistic attitude in you.
  
  
• Not Addicted To Television
  Happy women who spend 30% less time to watch the television compared with women who often feel sad. According to the research conducted by University of Maryland, which has analyzed the lives of 45,000 respondents over 34 years, happy women are spending more of their time socializing, reading, or attending religious activities as well as and sporting.
  
  
• Collecting Memorable Photo
  Women who use past memories or photos to remind themselves from time to time could be a sign that she is a person who appreciates life. According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of California, USA, "Typically, women like this can always be happy in spite of difficulties."
  
  Good memories will remind you about your "potential for happiness", and can serve as a token to remind you that you can feel happy again even though you are in difficult time today.
  
  
• Making Exercise As A Routine
  Women who love sports are more likely feel satisfaction in life. According to Danish researchers, compared to women who sport actively, women who do not exercise routinely are 70% more prone to stress and are not satisfied with their lives.
  
  Mild exercise for 17-34 minutes a day can give a happiness 'injection' than not exercising at all.
  
  
• Getting Along With Sociable Friends
  Getting along with sociable and cheerful friends will make you cheerful also. How often do you gather around with your friends? If you often gather around with your friends, you have 42% chances to be happy, but your chance will decrease to 22% if you rarely got together with your friends.
  
  
• Having Two Friends
  Among the 654 researched married women, they said that having at least two friends make them more likely to feel good and happier, too.
  

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