Secret of Harmonious Marriage

Each couple craves for harmony and perpetuity of their marriage. But there are too many things that can trigger quarrels in a marriage. However, there are some secrets that will help you to reach a harmonious relationship. What are they?

Genius Beauty, an Australian researcher, has found the secrets to help maintain happiness in family and to strengthen marital relationship. He also revealed that presence of gaps between husband and wife is often becomes the main trigger of arguments.

In his report he concludes that, to reach an intimate and harmonious relationship in marriage, a husband should not show that he gets more pleasures than his wife.

The similar conclusion also resulted by scientists from Deakin University in Victoria state, Australia. In their study, a husband should be more open to his wife. They found out that a husband's openness will make a woman feel more appreciated and will give her assurance that her partner is truly happy in his marriage with her.

Couples who conceal nothing to each other will be better prepared mentally in an event of divorce. But in most cases, couples who are honest to each other are less likely to divorce.

"The study found that the more gaps present between couples in their satisfaction level, the greater the threats to the marriage," the researchers said.

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Workaholic's Bad Habits

Working too hard has become a habit for many people. Even when they are at home, they still feel busy, can not relieve their thoughts out of their office work. Without realizing it, you might have worked harder and longer, thinking that hard work would bring you success.

However, do you know that working too hard for your career ambition could endanger your health? In fact, you could waste all of your money you have made out of your hard work at once if you get sick for being too tired. To avoid all of this, you need to get rid of "workaholic" habit from your life.

George Griffing, MD, a professor of internist from Saint Louis University, wrote in Times of India, that, "Many people feel they ought to work hard to gain financial success. But, high job pressure and long work hours will deteriorate you health in long term."

The workaholics often have bad habits that will give negative effects to their health. Here are the workaholic's bad habits that you should remove from your daily activities for a better health:

• Forget to relax
  If you always put yourself in pressure and do not allow yourself to relax, you will be caught in stress syndrome. You have to take time for relaxing. This way, you will be more alert and motivated. Too much stress will decrease your productivity.
  
  
• Eating on the Way
  Many times people forget to take a healthy lunch because of highload work such as meeting, conference calls and deadlines. It is necessary to eat in a calmy without overwhelmed with anxiety and haste. In the calmy situation, it makes more easily for nutritional content of consumed food to be absored by the body and make us more productive, especially for producing brilliant ideas for the quality works.
  
  
• Abandoning Sleep For Work
  Everyone, including super busy professionals still need rest as much as 7 to 9 hours of sleep every day. Loosing your sleep time can cause many problems such as irritability, difficulty in concentrating and also memory problems. And also problems associated with obesity.
  
  
• No Time for Exercising
  At least 30 minutes exercise every day is very important for your current and long-term health.
  
  
• Still Working in Sick Condition
  Many people still come to the office to work in spite of their sickness. There are three important reasons why you need to stay at home when you are sick. First, nobody wants you to spread germs and disease in the office. Second, you will definitely become less productive and third, you need the rest to heal in order to be able to work better.
  
  
• Drinking Alcohol (too much)
  Excessive drinking can lead to alcoholism, liver problems, and some forms of cancer.
  
  
• Skipping Annual Medical Examination
  You must do medical examination to detect disease early, to prevent others from developing disease, and to get the best treatment for your body if it is in vulnerable condition. You need to know what happened in your body.
  

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How to Say No

Throughout the day, you discover that there is always someone who needs your help, can be in the form of time, attention, praise, or even your approval. On the other hand, you also often need similar support from others. It happens everywhere, in the workplace, at home, or even when you meet a stranger on the street. That's what happens in life, take and give.

Always say "Yes" everytime someone asking for your help will drain up your energy, even your happiness. It's not easy to say "No", especially for someone who has become accustomed to say "Yes". But saying "No" is sometimes important for your health and wellbeing.

Thus, realize that you can not always say "Yes" to every request from others. Train yourself to say "No" instead if it is important to your health and wellbeing. These are some advantages of saying "No" :

• You will have more energy. Not only you will save your energy, the realization of the fact that you are the one who is in charge for your life will give you extra energy.
  
  
• You will have plenty of time for yourself.
  
  
• You will be more confident.
  
  
• Your life will be more fun.
  

So, how to say "No" wisely? Here are the tips:

1. Let them know. Ask for their understanding that you are busy with your other responsibilities.
   
   
2. Have a work schedule. You can't check whether things are according to your initial plan or not if you do not have a schedule. And, if you do not have a plan, someone else will be more than happy to take advantage of you.
   
   
3. Train yourself to say "No". Maybe not to all help requests, 95 percent of all is good enough. Tell them that you also have other responsibilities that you need accomplish.
   
   
4. Make some considerations. Take about five seconds to consider whether 20 percent of all help requests from people around you could be tailored to your bustle life. If not, say "No".
   

Say 'Yes' to the important things
Does the rejection of pleas for help other people is always bad? That might sound like that. But, wait a minute. You need to realize, before stating 'Yes', identify whether it will benefit you, whether in your work performance or in your superiors's sights. If it is important for your career and yourself, then this is the right time to say "Yes".

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What Can Make Women Happier?

Because of the higher daily costs of living, many people make assumption that material possesions could bring happiness. But, do you know, there are simple things around us that can make you happier?

As quoted from web Shine, here are the simple things around us that show how happier you are than you imagined:

• Have A Sister
  Usually women who at least have one sister have a happy life. A study presented at the annual conference of the British Psychological Society declared that, another sister can become a stimulus for communication within the family.
  
  Not only that, having a sister could mean having a better social support, thereby creating a greater optimistic attitude in you.
  
  
• Not Addicted To Television
  Happy women who spend 30% less time to watch the television compared with women who often feel sad. According to the research conducted by University of Maryland, which has analyzed the lives of 45,000 respondents over 34 years, happy women are spending more of their time socializing, reading, or attending religious activities as well as and sporting.
  
  
• Collecting Memorable Photo
  Women who use past memories or photos to remind themselves from time to time could be a sign that she is a person who appreciates life. According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of California, USA, "Typically, women like this can always be happy in spite of difficulties."
  
  Good memories will remind you about your "potential for happiness", and can serve as a token to remind you that you can feel happy again even though you are in difficult time today.
  
  
• Making Exercise As A Routine
  Women who love sports are more likely feel satisfaction in life. According to Danish researchers, compared to women who sport actively, women who do not exercise routinely are 70% more prone to stress and are not satisfied with their lives.
  
  Mild exercise for 17-34 minutes a day can give a happiness 'injection' than not exercising at all.
  
  
• Getting Along With Sociable Friends
  Getting along with sociable and cheerful friends will make you cheerful also. How often do you gather around with your friends? If you often gather around with your friends, you have 42% chances to be happy, but your chance will decrease to 22% if you rarely got together with your friends.
  
  
• Having Two Friends
  Among the 654 researched married women, they said that having at least two friends make them more likely to feel good and happier, too.
  

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Is it true that 80% of Cheating Husbands Still Love Their Wives?

For a married men or womend, an affair can be started from the habit of teasing or flirting. This teasing and flirting may end there, just like that. But it may also continued, pushed deeper into an affair.

The more your partner flirts, the higher the risk of him being involved in an affair. A psychologist confirmed this. Ragnar Beer, a psychologist from Goettingen, Germany, conducted a survey on 2,600 men and women who had ever cheated or be cheated by their partners.

One result from this survey is very surprising. Most of or about 80% of cheating men/women are still in love with their partner. The biggest reasons for their cheating are the opened opportunities, inability to resist the temptations, or a need for new challanges. Excessive stress at work can also be counted as a factor.

In addition to the above facts, consider these four other startling facts surrounding romantic affairs:

• Not Just One Night Stand Dating
  Research conducted by Beer shows the most affairs are not just a one night stand dating. Only 12% women and 15% men done this one night stand. Almost 60% of the respondents admitted that their affairs lasted for more than 1 month, some even up to 6 months.
  
  
• Affairs May Be Repetitive
  One affair may then be followed by another, and then another, another... and so forth. According to the conducted survey, 49% of the cheating husbands and 55% of the cheating wives cheated only once. And 17% of men were having an affair while dating a woman, 12% male respondents cheated twice and and 22% cheated more than three times. About women, 20% of them betrayed their husbands twice, 10% three times and 15% more than three times.
  
  
• After Having Been Caught Cheating
  An affair will always be a big problem when exposed. According to Deer's survey, most people admit their infidelity to their partner, ie 44% men and 46% women. 30% men and 24% women's affairs were exposed because of being caught by their partners. Only 3% men and 6% women's affairs being exposed because of the other's reports.
  
  
• Betrayals Will Never Be Forgotten
  Discourse that unfaithfulness can be forgiven and forgetten turned out to be wrong. 43% men and 61% women had never been able to forgive and forget their partner's affairs. Then, 11% men and 20% women who have an unfaithful partner, find themselves hating their partners instead of loving them.
  

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Ice Cream that Can Make You Stay Young

Women are known to do many things deffer the growth of wrinkles on their face, such as using expensive cream, botox injection to plastic surgery. But, how if it could be done by simply eating ice creams? How if eating ice creams can delay wrinkles and make the skin more radiant?

An research is being developed to produce an ice cream with high amount of antioxidants to prevent aging and to make skin looks more beautiful. As quoted from Styelist.com, the research is conducted by a global company, Unilever in a cooperation with a biotechnology company, Ampere Life Sciences.

They will conduct a five years research to develop an anti-aging products, focusing on antioxidant materials. The plan of this research is to develop an array of antioxidant products.

Antioxidants are indeed the "primadonna" in the beauty world. Not only it may make more your skin look more beautiful and delay the wrinkles, it also can function as anti-cancer substance. But meanwhile, while waiting for this ice cream becomes reality in the market, you can get your antioxidants from variety of fruits dan green vegetables.

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Eyeglasses May Make You Look Older

Do you often regarded as older than your actual age? This is probably because your eyeglasses. According to a survey conducted by London Vision Clinic, eyeglasses could make someone look older.

A survey to 4.000 people revealed that people who wear eyeglasses will look 3.3 years older than their actual age. And, for people of age 45 years will look 5 years older. This survey also found that people who wear glasses tend to be a bookworm and more fluent with computer.

People with glasses are also seen less confident and more look physically weaker. This study asked the respondents to analyze photographs of 10 different people (shown with and without glasses) and estimate their age.

"This research is interesting because it shows the quick assesment people make about someone in the first sight", said the psychologist Dr. Glenn Wilson as quoted from Stylelist.com.

Dr Wilson also added: "This study was also conducted in children. A quarter of respondents admit, the kids who wear glasses are often spieled by their friends of the same age".

If you have to use glassess, then you should choose carefully. Choose for eyeglasses that fit with your face and eye shape. Make sure that your eyeglassess highlight your beauty. Don't use eyeglasses that underline your asymmetric eyebrows, for instance.

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