Is it true that 80% of Cheating Husbands Still Love Their Wives?

For a married men or womend, an affair can be started from the habit of teasing or flirting. This teasing and flirting may end there, just like that. But it may also continued, pushed deeper into an affair.

The more your partner flirts, the higher the risk of him being involved in an affair. A psychologist confirmed this. Ragnar Beer, a psychologist from Goettingen, Germany, conducted a survey on 2,600 men and women who had ever cheated or be cheated by their partners.

One result from this survey is very surprising. Most of or about 80% of cheating men/women are still in love with their partner. The biggest reasons for their cheating are the opened opportunities, inability to resist the temptations, or a need for new challanges. Excessive stress at work can also be counted as a factor.

In addition to the above facts, consider these four other startling facts surrounding romantic affairs:

• Not Just One Night Stand Dating
  Research conducted by Beer shows the most affairs are not just a one night stand dating. Only 12% women and 15% men done this one night stand. Almost 60% of the respondents admitted that their affairs lasted for more than 1 month, some even up to 6 months.
  
  
• Affairs May Be Repetitive
  One affair may then be followed by another, and then another, another... and so forth. According to the conducted survey, 49% of the cheating husbands and 55% of the cheating wives cheated only once. And 17% of men were having an affair while dating a woman, 12% male respondents cheated twice and and 22% cheated more than three times. About women, 20% of them betrayed their husbands twice, 10% three times and 15% more than three times.
  
  
• After Having Been Caught Cheating
  An affair will always be a big problem when exposed. According to Deer's survey, most people admit their infidelity to their partner, ie 44% men and 46% women. 30% men and 24% women's affairs were exposed because of being caught by their partners. Only 3% men and 6% women's affairs being exposed because of the other's reports.
  
  
• Betrayals Will Never Be Forgotten
  Discourse that unfaithfulness can be forgiven and forgetten turned out to be wrong. 43% men and 61% women had never been able to forgive and forget their partner's affairs. Then, 11% men and 20% women who have an unfaithful partner, find themselves hating their partners instead of loving them.
  

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Ice Cream that Can Make You Stay Young

Women are known to do many things deffer the growth of wrinkles on their face, such as using expensive cream, botox injection to plastic surgery. But, how if it could be done by simply eating ice creams? How if eating ice creams can delay wrinkles and make the skin more radiant?

An research is being developed to produce an ice cream with high amount of antioxidants to prevent aging and to make skin looks more beautiful. As quoted from Styelist.com, the research is conducted by a global company, Unilever in a cooperation with a biotechnology company, Ampere Life Sciences.

They will conduct a five years research to develop an anti-aging products, focusing on antioxidant materials. The plan of this research is to develop an array of antioxidant products.

Antioxidants are indeed the "primadonna" in the beauty world. Not only it may make more your skin look more beautiful and delay the wrinkles, it also can function as anti-cancer substance. But meanwhile, while waiting for this ice cream becomes reality in the market, you can get your antioxidants from variety of fruits dan green vegetables.

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Eyeglasses May Make You Look Older

Do you often regarded as older than your actual age? This is probably because your eyeglasses. According to a survey conducted by London Vision Clinic, eyeglasses could make someone look older.

A survey to 4.000 people revealed that people who wear eyeglasses will look 3.3 years older than their actual age. And, for people of age 45 years will look 5 years older. This survey also found that people who wear glasses tend to be a bookworm and more fluent with computer.

People with glasses are also seen less confident and more look physically weaker. This study asked the respondents to analyze photographs of 10 different people (shown with and without glasses) and estimate their age.

"This research is interesting because it shows the quick assesment people make about someone in the first sight", said the psychologist Dr. Glenn Wilson as quoted from Stylelist.com.

Dr Wilson also added: "This study was also conducted in children. A quarter of respondents admit, the kids who wear glasses are often spieled by their friends of the same age".

If you have to use glassess, then you should choose carefully. Choose for eyeglasses that fit with your face and eye shape. Make sure that your eyeglassess highlight your beauty. Don't use eyeglasses that underline your asymmetric eyebrows, for instance.

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Signs that You Are Enslaved by Your Job

Today more and more employees have 'vacation deprived syndrome'. This is a syndrome where an employee still doing his works despite being in vacation and thus will not get paid.

This syndrome occurs due to technological progress. With the existence of smart phones and laptops make a worker can be contacted by his superiors at any given time, and there is no objection at all from the worker about it.

A survey conducted by Expedia.com revealed that some people even feel guilty if they take their annual leave even though they know that they are fully entitled for it. If this is your situation, then it may be that you, too, are enslaved by your job.

Fact shows, such attitude would bring bad influence on health, family relationship and social life. And in some cases, this would give adverse effects to the company's overall progress. According to Nick Deligiannis, head of Hays, a recruitment company, this new habit was influenced by unhealthy economic conditions.

According to Nick Deligiannis, as quoted from thebigchair.com.au, "The current economic situation had forced many companies to be very strict in recruitments, resulting in very high workloads for some employees, thus makes them come home later than normal, and works during weekends or holidays".

A research conducted in the United States found that female workers also experience that "vacation deprived syndrome".Deligiannis said that currently, the boundaries between work life and personal life have been blurred and blurred. This is mainly due to the belief that every worker should take more responsibility considering the current economic situation.

This belief may come from wrong perception about their role or job descriptions. Or maybe simply because of the superior's inability or distrust to delegate work to their subordinates.

For some employees, what's important is not only how others thinks about them, but also how they see themselves. In other cases, the blurred line comes from a sincere interest in job.

"Do not allow yourself to be enslaved by a PDA or laptop. Restrain yourself from checking incoming emails or messages at breakfast, lunch and dinner. This will discipline yourself to rest more. Professionals are the people who do not let themselves sunk into a job thus having no personal life, "Deligiannis said.

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Why Women Can not Keep Secrets?

One study revealed, women can not keep a secret for long. Results of the study states, 43% of women unintentionally divulge a supposedly secret story to a close friend - and the other 15% tells secrets to more than one friend.

This study also found, 4 out of 10 female respondents admitted that they can not keep secrets, no matter how personal or confidential that secret.

Most often, the secrets that women can't keep are the secrets about their partners. The study showed that 40% of them claimed to have told their partner's secret at least to one friend.

But men are different from women on divulging secrets. Men prefer to divulge his secrets or the secrets about their partner to a stranger.

Phillip Hodson from the British Association of Counseling Psychotherapy said, "In essence, men are more reluctant to reveal things about themselves and their lives, while women tend to be more confident and trust their friends more."

So, why do women love to spill the beans? According to Sara Hartley, a writer from the IllicitEncounters.com, "Women, if they get into trouble, always feel better to have from their friends. No wonder the womenfolk enjoy sharing all things, even their secrets."

But, according to Hodson, there is one secret that most women will always keep. What is it? The answer is: infidelity. Women tend to cover up their affairs from their friends.

However, this does not apply to men. Men tend to tell their 'adventures' to their guy friends in order get the status of a stud in their eyes.

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CAREER STUCK? TRY THIS STRATEGY!

Do you feel stucked in your career, although you have all that needed for successful career progress such as brilliancy, loyalty and dedication to the company? Do not despair, because maybe there is something you do not know, or you've even deliberately neglected along this time. What is it?

"Love comes from knowing", maybe this saying rings something in your heart. Yes, you cannot love someone if you don't know him. It's the law of nature. If we do not see and know somebody, we tend to ignore him. Conversely, if we look, know, and have become familiar with him, we might be attracted to him. It could be that your career stucked because of this: your boss does not "know you".

To contend with your career problems, you can follow the following tips:

• Make Your Quality Be Known
  A company is an organization that consists of many people, so it's not always easy for its leaders to know their employees personally. Therefore, you must do some efforts to make your bosses "know you". You must be willing to present yourself, to make yourself known, especially in the fields where excel the most.
  
  Be different, in positive ways. For example, if many or most of your colleagues come late everyday, take advantage from this situation by always coming on time. Or, if you're in a meeting, be bold and utter your smart opinions that may give more benefits to the company. This way, you would get your boss's attention.
  
  
• Always Give A Positive Impression
  When your boss already "knows you", then make him remember you through always perform excellently in your job and show him your big potential. But don't be a boot licker. It would only harm your career in the long term.
  
  What you need to do is to always maintain - or improve - your work performance, especially if your boss trusts with an important project. If this kind of opportunity has not come yet to you, improve yourself now while waiting for that golden opportunity by carrying through your responsibilities as best as you can, one at a time. Remember, trust must be earned. You can not have other's trust in only a couple of days. You must nurture it persistently and diligently.
  

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4 REASONS NOT TO MARRY A RICH MAN

Vacation in an exotic island, fancy dinner or a sumptuous gift of diamond ring are the things that many women dreamed of.

Seeking a relationship with a rich man is not wrong. However, the research indicated that your chances for happiness may be bigger if you choose to foster a relationship with an ordinary or not too rich man.

"Men who do not have very much money actually are more willing to make their women happy. It was because of money and high statuses often trigger infidelity and other negative behaviors in men," says Adam Galinsky, Ph.D., Professor of Management and Organization Sudies of the Northwestern University , United States, as quoted from Womenshealthmag.com.

If you're looking for a partner, do not only use wealth to consider if a man good enough for you or not. Why? Because, in fact, there are 4 "advantages" you can have if you choose to build a relationship with a not-too-rich man.

• More Faithful
  Research shows that men with average income have smaller tendency to cheat on their partners. On the contrary, wealthy men tend to be more hypocritical in the case of infidelity.
  
  "Men of high statuses have greater tendency to cheat. But they are also more judgmental to others who are having affairs for their superiorty feeling of having more money and power," said Galinsky.
  
  
• More Polite
  According to a report in the journal of Psychological Science, when meeting with new people, men from low to medium income are more polite than those of the riches. The facts observed when the researchers witnessed the differences on how the rich and the ordinary men treat the new strangers.
  
  "Men with average income try to socialize more because for them social relationships are skills to survive. Rich men might assume that they do not need new acquaintances," said Dacher Keltner, Ph.D., the author of the book "Born to Be Good".
  
  
• Give More Support to Their Partner
  Research published in the Journal of Applied Psychology reveals that rich men look more sexy than ordinary men. But in terms of support and help to their partners, men who are not too rich are the champion. They do not hesitate to help their wives to clean the house, to bath the children, to cook and to do other household tasks. This oftentimes be very sexy in the eyes of the wives. Mutual support indeed will make couples happier.
  
  
• More Astonishing During Lovemaking
  Men who are not too rich will try to satisfy their partner's sexual desires in every way, said Bethany Marshall, PhD, the author of the book 'Deal Breakers'.
  
  "Man will do everything to make their women stay. If he can not provide riches, he will try to satisfy his partner's sexual desires in every way," said Bethany.
  

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REASON NOT TO COMMIT SUICIDE

We will be experiencing tough times in our lives. Sometimes we would come to a point where it seems there were no way out, and thus there were no more reason to live.

No popularity, no wealth and no luxury can bring true happiness. We often find how rich and famous people, who has everything the world has to offer, end their lives out of desperation.

Life is precious. A suicide is the worst solution there is for any problem. If suicidal thoughts emerge in your mind, seek for help immediately. Suicidal thoughts are signals for serious problem within.

These tips were taken from the Methods of Healing. Before you decide to end your life, think about these 10 reasons to not commit doing that. Focus on them instead on the reasons why you should commit suicide.

THE DYNAMICS OF SITUATION
As life is dynamic, so is our situation. You won't always be in this difficult situation. Even the worst situation has at least a way out as long as you are willing to work on it. There is no problem that can not be solved. Think clearly and analyze your situation, you may see the light at there.

PERMANENT EFFECTS OF A SUICIDE
The effect of a suicide is permanent effect. It can not be "corrected". Life is a choice and you must make a decision. So, make a smart choice. Even if you have made the wrong decisions, as long as you are alive you still have a chance to fix them.

SUICIDE WILL ONLY HURT OTHER PEOPLE
The real reason behind any suicidal thoughts is to run away from pain or from seemingly very bad situations. But, by committing suicide, you will only hurt people who care for you and who love you deeply.

YOU HAVE THE POWER OVER YOUR LIFE
Everyone of us has power to determine our course of life. If you commit suicide, you will not be able to harness the power. Live, and use the power work out your problem and get a better life. No matter how bad your current situation is, at the least you still have the power of sound mind. Use it and find your way out!

ENJOY THE PROCESS
If you can pass through your hard times, then you will have that "special ability" to help others who are in similar situation. Make your life useful. Help somebody to have a better life. It would make you feel much better. And enjoy every bump you find in your life for in the future you would find your experience you got from them more precious than all of your earthly possessions.

FOCUS YOUR MIND ON THE BEAUTIFUL THINGS YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE
Think about this: if you commit suicide, will no longer be able to enjoy your favorite foods, movies, or hobbies that you like it very much.

LIVE YOUR ROLE
Everyone has his own role in this life, including you. You may not understand it today, but believe me, there will be major changes in the lives of others around you if you leave this world.

LEARNING
Every successful person had ever faced their desperate times before. Don't let your problem, no matter how big it seems, be the stumbling block for you endeavor to reach happiness.

SOMEBODY DEEMS YOU IMPORTANT
You may not realize it, but you may be the reason for somebody else to stay alive until today. We do not always know current things, let alone the future. Do you know that you may mean the world to somebody?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Maybe you feel lonely and have nobody in your lives, but in fact, you are not alone. There are many people out there who will be willing to listen to you if only you were willing to open yourself. There are many good men/women out there. Raise up, be courageous and open yourself to true friendship!

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SECRETS OF HAPPY COUPLE

A problem that often faced by married couples are the waning of their romantic life because of daily chores. We need to express our love to our spouse, to keep our flame of  love burning.

To express our love, we don't have to wait for special occasion. We can do it in our day-to-day life, and make it a habit.

If right now you feel that your romantic life with your spouse has become less beautiful than it was, start doing this basic habit to rekindle the fire of love again. We'll never be too late for doing anything good, won't we?

1. Never forget to say "I Love You" to your partner everyday. Let him/her know how much you care about him/her.
   
   
2. Hug him/her and give him/her a kiss good-bye before you leave. Do the same when you get home: greet him/her and give your warm hug.
   
   
3. Treat him/her as if he/she were your date. Treat her/him even better than when you were dating: opening the door for her, hold out a chair for her, help her in her domestic work, or hold her hands when you're walking together.
   
   
4. Do not let small things annoy you. It's only a matter of choice whether feeling annoyed with your partner's bad habit or finding a workaround. If she always leaves the cap off the toothpaste, then use a separate tube. Or if he always leaves his clothes laying around, just try to ignore it or pick them up and put them on place. Buying additional hangers won't be a big deal, don't you think? Buy some new ones and keep them handy. As best as you can, create a pleasant atmosphere for both of you in your home.
   
   
5. Instead of thinking about the disappointing things he had done, why not just focus on the positive things he/she had done for you? Things that may draw both of you closer together?
   
   
6. When you get angry, try to hold your words, even if you feel you want to shed your anger on your partner. Take a break, breath deeper. Or give yourself time to regroup by being away from him/her for a moment. By doing that, you may be able to see problem more clearly. Letting your anger shed uncontrollably would just make you say and do things that you will regret later.
   
   
7. Never use your partner's secrets or weaknesses against him/her! Never talk to your friends, mother, his family or anyone about it, even when it seems insignificant or cute to you. Your partner entrust you with his/her secrets, so never ever fail his/her trust.
   
   
8. Be willing to, at least, accompany your partner in doing his/her favorite things, such as watching a soccer ball game or fishing. Make him/her enjoy their activities. Do that and later you'll find how he does the same to you!
   
   
9. Show respect to your partner. Do not ever talk bad things about your partner to others. When you are talking about your partner to somebody else, let the one who talks with you feel the respect and love you have for him/her. Let your respect and love shine through your words.
   
   
10. Always find convenient time to be together every day. Find out what kind of activities that you both enjoy either eating your meal together, or just laying in bed. Skipping your favorite TV program for a a walk around the block with him/her would never hurt either. You can choose and mix the activities anyway you wish. If you are away from home, don't forget to call home just to hear his/her voice. The point is to spend time together every day, either by just talking, holding hands when sitting together... or whatever things to build connection between the two of you.
    

Without loving acts, loving words are meaningless. Make a romantic life a part of your daily life!

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INSTANT WAYS TO OVERCOME STRESS

Many things in our daily life can trigger stress, such as workloads, family problems, relationship with spouse or the traffic jams. If right now you are facing this situation, try these instant ways to cope with stress:

BREATH PRACTICING
When you are consciously trying to breathe more deeply, it will naturally help your
body to return to a relaxed position. Put your hand on your stomach, and feel it
when it expands while you inhale deeply. In the mean time, count in your heart from
one to three or four then hold your breath for the same count. After that, exhale as long as possible, and feel how your stomach deflate. This will help you to focus on the breath thus help you to get rid of your stress.

MAKE A TARGET
Every morning, think about something small and fun to do on that day. Thinking about small and fun activity such as doing crossword puzzles, or the big ones such as conquering Mount Everest may help you to train your brain to divert the focus from the problems you face.

MAKE SMALL CHANGES IN YOUR ROUTINES
It is the fact that little changes in everyday chores can make some people stressful. If you want to explore a new things in your life, intentionally making small changes will help you in your cognitive responses. You will be more flexible, and better than that, it will also help you to face challenges that lie ahead. For example, you can try a food that you've never tried before or maybe join a new exercise club near your office.

HAPPY MOMENTS PHOTOS
Look at the photos of your happy moments, for example, your holiday photos, or photos about the funny things you do with your nieces and nephews. If you would spend just 10 seconds to concentrate on these pictures, it would help reduce your tension and stabilize your heartbeat.

GIVE PRAISES
Studies show that the warmer your relationship with others, the better you would be in combating the stress. So, build good relationships with your colleagues and others around you. Don't be stingy of your praises. Don't hesitate praise your colleague for his/her accomplishments. By doing this, not only will you make them happy, but it also helps you feel better, more comfortable and more cheerful.

START TO THINK OF MONDAY AS JOYFUL DAY
I hate Monday. It's a popular saying among the workers. But that thoughts have side effects. The thoughts would unconsciously make you think that Monday is a bad day. No wonder then reports say how most heart attacks occur on Mondays than on the other days of the week. So, change your mentality by start to think of Monday as a joyful and extraordinary day. Schedule something fun for Mondays, such as lunch with friends or join an exercise class that you can enjoy at the end of the day. This way, you will anxiously waiting for those fun Mondays, and you would be able to say "I love Monday".

ATMOSPHERE TRANSITION ON YOUR WAY FROM THE OFFICE TO HOME
You always go through the same paths every day from your office to home, but have you ever tried to enjoy the scenery along the way? Or enjoying a favorite music during your trip home? Doing this will help you adapt from the office atmosphere to a more relaxed home atmosphere.

EXPRESSING YOUR THOUGHTS
Worriment will make a person experiencing sleeping disorders. Get a notebook and write your thoughts, including your worries and the possible solutions you can find to overcome your problems. Make a promise to yourself that can make you feel better, such as to not willing to give up to worries until 12:00 o'clock the next day. This way, your brain would try to find ways to divert your mind from the things that can make you feel worried.

LEARN TO DEBATE MORE FAIRLY
Fights with a partner is the most frequent cause of stress, quoted from a survey conducted by SELF magazine. Indeed, arguments or disagreements with a partner are sometimes needed to enable us to understand each other. But it is advisable to take a moment to take a breath and to calm down in the middle of the debate. Once you both have reached an agreement, continue with positive activities, such as hugging or making love to increase endorphins's level. This hormone will make us more comfortable and lessen the negative effects of stress.

ROSEMARY FRAGRANT
A study conducted in Japan said that inhaling scent of rosemary can reduce cortisol level (a stress hormone) in a person's brain. You can buy for this fragrance in stores that sell aroma therapies.

That's all. Happy trying and good luck!

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Five Rules of Arguing With Your Spouse

Quarrels or disagreements are normal in relationships. They are there, even in the most harmonius relationship. Quarrels and arguments are things that you cannot avoid relationships. And many researches have proven that having arguments are oftentimes much better than suppressing anger.

Arguments can bring positive outcome in a relationship as long as we know how to manage them.

Arguments or quarrels may bring positive influence in a relationship as long as the couple knows how to use them.

So, remember these five rules to get a positive effects from your quarrels:

SPEAK ONE AT A TIME
Never both of you talk at the same time. Give time to your partner to express her/his minds or feelings without interruption. Let she/he finish his/her talking first before you give your opinion. Talk only after your partner has said the things he/she has to say. This way, both of you will have the same opportunity to express your feelings or point of views that masy help in resolving your problems.

TELL YOUR FEELING
When you have arguments with your partner, be open and tell him/her about how you feel concerning the matter. say something like: "I feel so sad when you do bla bla bla...". But don't act like a smart. Do not tell that your partner have done something wrong or make you feel guilty. Focus to your feeling. Tell her/him what you feel for what he had done to you. With this way, your partner will know how he/she hurt you with his/her behaviour.

FOCUS
Stay focus to the problem you face right now. Do not bring up other problems. Solve your problems one by one. Bringing up other problem will only worsen your situation and your problems will never be solved.

EXPRESS YOUR LOVE
If you have disagreements or arguments with your partner, don't let him/her feels that you don't love him/her anymore. You may say to him/her: "I love you, please let me know if you will go home late, because I'm so worried about you." Sometimes, out of control, you may yell at him/her, but never ever tell him/her "I hate you" or "We had better get divorced"

TAKE A REST
If you feel tired, ask him/her sometime for you to take a rest. Maybe after 1 hour, you could talk to him/her again. This way, you would be more calm, so that you two may find a way out for your problems.

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Reasons to Resign

It's not easy to find a job in this economic situation. But we should do our best in job hunts. Composing an impressive curricullum vitae may help, as well as making good first impression in job interviews. We can also learn new skills to enhance our quality by taking a courses, etc.

After getting a job, it does not mean your problem will stop. Working environments have their own situation, too. And the situation can get so worse that would force us to resign. But, never make your decision to quit from your job solely based on your emotional judgement. Take condiseration and think it carefully. Don't make a decision that you will regret later.


As quoted from allwomenstalk.com, some reason that people would like to resign from their recent job are:

• Higher Salaries
  This is the most prominent reason when someone decides to move to another job. Higher salaries and better benefits have always been attractive offers that are difficult to resist. Do not ever quit from your recent job before you get another job.
  
  
• Can not Enjoy Their Current Job
  People who quit because of this reason seemed have no choice except moving to another company to find more suitable job. If you can not find peace with your recent job, then resigning may be the better option. That way, you will be able to avoid decline in your work performance. And if this happens too long, the situation can trigger emotional stress that at the end will endanger your health.
  
  
• Fitted for Better Position
  The other reason people choose to quit from their recent job because they think they have good chances to get a better position. But, before you resign, make sure you have a replacement job that is better than what you have now.
  
  
• Have a Better Job Offer
  A new job opportunity should offer long time positive impacts. If this offer just gives you temporary benefits, then you should hold on on your recent job until you find better job opportunity.
  
  
• Unsuitable work hour
  Several companies demand their employees to do overtime work hour and giving them big piles of work after normal working hours. There are people out there who can not stand with this work situation any longer because it takes away their time with their family. So, they choose to get out from the job.
  
  
• Need Time to Take Care of Children
  Many women prefer to do jobs that can be done from home. That way, they can work while in the same time caring for their children. So, it should not surprise us of many career women decide to resign from their offices after being married and having children.
  

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